Importance of shared goals in long-term partnerships
It is amazing how we treat our love relationships, yet expect them to produce the best results. We abandon the one we say we love for so long, yet expect that they stay put, waiting for the day of our return without anger or judgment. But should this be so? Phileoor romantic relationships, like our business partnerships and investments, need nurturing too. We need to invest in our partners and partnerships just like we invest in our businesses. One of the many ways we can do this is to have shared goals.
What are shared goals, you may ask? Shared goals are objectives that a group of people work together to achieve. Some shared goals in relationships include quality communication, shared quality time, personal development, physical intimacy, and teamwork, among others. Shall we take them one after the other then?
Communication
If there is anything that must not be compromised in a relationship, it is communication. Communication is like the wall that keeps vermin from entering and causing damage to the love two people share. Once this wall is broken, the center of the relationship can hardly hold. To achieve a perfect wall that can keep out predators and pests you both need to work on openness and honesty. These two key elements may not be easily achieved but are worth the try. The thing is that you become a formidable force when there are no secrets between you two, and when you are able to tell each other just about anything. By doing this, the enemy has nowhere to hide in your relationship, talk less of rearing his ugly head, thereby engendering a sustainable relationship that will stand the test of time.
Personal development
The world has evolved, and gone are the days when only one party is expected to be the better one. Everyone is now enjoined to be the best versions of themselves – winning in their fields and making waves in their world. Imagine dating/being married to a college Professor while you remain a school cert holder, just tying a wrapper around her/his waist, not seeking any form of advancement…. Wouldn’t you be frustrated? The same way you know to “dress up” for a business meeting is the same way you must continue to show up and out for yourself and ultimately, your partner.
Intimacy
Beyond sex, how do you get intimate with your partner? Yes, I know “Love Language” has become cliché, but do you know your partner’s, nonetheless? Do you remember to touch their core by meeting their most intimate desires (mostly outside the bedroom)? I remember watching Black Love’s shorts about giving your partner the wrong gift. The man’s frustration was clearly visible because he kept buying his woman the gifts he thought she should like, and even thought she should appreciate. But he never got what he wanted because he never touched her “core”. You can do better to sustain your relationship and make what you share last forever; you just need to get intimate beyond sex with your partner.
In conclusion, when couples work on shared goals, we see that they have:
